After the wedding ceremony and the reception, there is still one important chore which the bride and groom will have to do together before their honeymoon begins, and that is sending ‘thank you’ notes for the wedding gifts they have received. These little notes are a basic courtesy, and a way of ensuring that you stay in touch with your guests. It may seem like a never-ending chore, with each guest (or couple) requiring thanks, but it needs to be done so that your guests don’t think that you are ungrateful. After all, they have spent time and money on your gift, the least you can do is thank them afterwards.
Before you write a single message in a thank-you card, you need to be prepared. It is a good idea to gather the names and addresses of the people to be thanked, and this can be helped if you have a record of who gifted what, so that you can really thank them, rather than just writing a basic note. Make sure that you know the details of each person, so that if a couple have given you a blender, you don’t write a thank-you note to each of them. A single thank-you with both of their names will do.
Next, set up a space where the cards will be written. This is best done on a table, rather than on your knees while watching the television. You also need to have some thank-you cards. If you want to be very extravagant, you can have your names engraved on the front, but it isn’t really necessary. Next, make sure that you have a good pen, or sent of identical pens, so that you won’t run out of ink half-way through a note.
Even if you are an experienced writer, you won’t be able to write all of your thank-yous at one sitting, unless you only had a very small number of guests. Instead, it is a good idea to set aside a weekend to complete the notes. Write them within a reasonable time, too, so that your guests will know that you have taken the time to thank them while the wedding was still fresh in your mind. You should also make sure that you keep all of the notes together, ready to be posted at the same time, so that Aunt Joan gets her note when Uncle Steve gets his.
Write the thank you note straight out, without pauses, and put it into the envelope, and write the name and address on that before you begin the next note. That way, you won’t get confused about where each card belongs. Start at the top of the list, and work your way to the bottom, crossing out each name once it has been completed. Put the notes in a box, or file, so that they are easily checked in case you lose track. Once you have finished all of the notes, post them, and then perhaps have a wine or two!