The modern wedding ceremony is unlike that of any previous generation, with more and more guests being connected to the outside world through smart phones and tablets throughout the ceremony.
In fact, the majority of guests at a modern wedding are going to use these devices to record videos and take photographs of the big day, even when you have spent money on a professional photographer to get the best images. The happy couple might not even want pictures to be taken of certain moments, trusting to keep them in their hearts, but the wedding guests will be able to take any photograph they like, whenever. In fact, they can even sit down during the ceremony and start using social media, sending your private pictures to the net as soon as they have occur. In modern society, very little is sacred, and most guests don’t know when to keep a moment to themselves.
This is such a serious situation that some brides and grooms have banned technology from their weddings, demanding that phones and tablets be turned off before the wedding starts. There has been some surprise over these demands, with some guests apparently resisting this request. The debate continues to rage over whether the happy couple should have the final say over what is taken into the venue, and with most chapels and registry venues allowing electronic devices, this can be a difficult situation.
The benefits of ‘unplugged’ weddings are obvious to all, with the ceremony not being interrupted by phone calls, people sending and receiving texts, or just the sound of people typing on keyboards. In addition, your professional photographer is likely to get better shots if he or she is not having to weave around people standing up to take better shots, or moving suddenly in order to get better reception on the phone.
Another benefit of the ‘unplugged’ wedding is the attention which the happy couple will get from their guests. Phones are a constant distraction in modern life, taking attention away from surroundings, and cutting users off from what is happening around them. This can be true for a wedding as for any other event, and so banning phones and tablets is one way to ensure that guests are not viewing the whole ceremony through the veil of Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and a whole host of other social media channels.
You might choose a compromise, rather than asking people to completely turn off their phone to ask them to place them on silent if it is really necessary and to desist from posting any photographs on Social Media pages.
Most people feel that it is possible to go without a phone for a few hours, particularly when it is a special occasion such as a wedding. The bride and the groom’s opinions on the matter should be respected, after all. A few years ago, it was very unusual for any guest to have a phone, but now they can be the extra, sometimes unwelcome, guest at a wedding.
At the end of the day, it is the decision the bride and groom should take into account during the wedding planning process – and this is where a good wedding planner would be able to provide their expertise on.